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Suicide and self harm

teenage girl crying in front of a brick wall backgroundWhy do teenagers and children self-harm?

The reasons children and teenagers can self-harm are often complicated and will be different for every child or young person. Sometimes a child or teenager may not know the reasons they self-harm.

For many young people, self-harm can feel like a way to cope with difficult feelings or to release tension. The physical pain of hurting themselves can feel like a distraction from the emotional pain they're struggling with.

Some difficult experiences or emotions can make self-harm more likely in children:

  • experiencing depression, anxiety or eating problems
  • having low self-esteem or feeling like they’re not good enough
  • being bullied or feeling alone
  • experiencing emotional, physical or sexual abuse, or neglect
  • grieving or having problems with family relationships
  • feeling angry, numb or like they don't have control over their lives.

(Information taken from NSPCC website)

The following organisations offer really useful advice if you are worried that your child is self-harming.

Young Minds – the website includes information on the following:

  • What is self-harm?
  • Signs a young person is self-harming
  • Helping your child in the short term
  • Helping your child over the longer term
  • Finding professional help
  • Keeping your child safe
  • Looking after yourself
  • Where to get further support
  • View our guide for young people

NSPCC offer advice on

  • Signs of self-harm
  • Supporting a child who self-harms

Family Lives offers advice on

  • Understanding self harm
  • Why self harm
  • Keeping your teen safe
  • What should I do if my teen is injured?
  • Supporting your teen

Suicide Prevention offers advice on

  • Signs of self-harm
  • Self help booklets
  • Supporting a child who self-harms

Where to get help for self-harm +

The NHS website offers advice on where to seek advice for anyone who is or is thinking about self-harming.  Consider

    Further information and support +

    These organisations offer information and support for anyone who self-harms or thinks about self-harm, or their friends and family:

    Virtual College have worked in partnership with SelfharmUK to create a free online course Understanding Young Minds.  It is designed to help parents talk to children about emotional resilience and self-harm. Parents/carers can find this free course on their website at www.virtual-college.co.uk/free-courses/understanding-young-minds

    There are also resources on our children and young people pages which include you tube clips on what happens if a child decides to go and see their GP

    Suicide +

    PAPYRUS Prevention of Young Suicide is the UK charity dedicated to the prevention of suicide and the promotion of positive mental health and emotional wellbeing in young people.

    They provide confidential support and advice to young people struggling with thoughts of suicide, and anyone worried about a young person through their helpline, HOPELINEUK.

    The PAPRUS website includes a helpful guide on supporting your child: Self harm and suicide

    The Staying Safe website provides information on how to make a safety plan. It includes video tutorials and online templates to guide you through the process.

    If you’re worried that a young person cannot stay safe or has taken steps to end their life but is struggling to engage in help for themselves – call the police on 999.

    HOPELINEUK

    HOPELINEUK is a confidential support and advice service for children and young people under the age of 35 who are experiencing thoughts of suicide, or anyone concerned that a young person could be thinking about suicide.

    If you are having thoughts of suicide or are concerned for a young person who might be you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice.

    Call: 03001022470  Website: Papyrus | Young Suicide Prevention Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org