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Romance Fraud

What is Romance Fraud?

Romance fraud (or romance scams) occurs when a person is deceived into believing they are in a genuine relationship, with the intention of exploiting them for financial gain or personal information.

It often involves:

  • Creating fake online profiles
  • Building trust and emotional connection over time
  • Requesting money, gifts, or financial access

Romance fraud can have a significant emotional, psychological, and financial impact, and is frequently underreported due to stigma and shame.


Why This Matters

  • National data shows substantial financial losses and increasing reports
  • Victims may remain in contact with perpetrators for extended periods (months or years) 
  • Offenders use sophisticated methods, including:
    • Social media and dating apps
    • Encrypted messaging platforms
    • Artificial intelligence to create convincing identities 

Anyone can be a victim. Romance fraud affects people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds.


Romance Fraud as a Safeguarding Issue

Romance fraud should be considered within adult safeguarding where:

  • There is financial or material abuse (Care Act 2014)
  • The person has care and support needs
  • The individual is unable to protect themselves due to:
    • coercion
    • emotional dependency
    • trauma or isolation

Victims may not recognise they are being exploited and may resist intervention, requiring a person‑centred, trauma‑informed approach.


Signs and Indicators

There is no single indicator. Practitioners should look for patterns such as:

Relationship behaviours

  • A relationship that progresses very quickly online
  • The individual has never met the person in person
  • Requests to move communication to private or encrypted platforms

Financial indicators

  • Requests for money (e.g. emergencies, travel, business needs)
  • Use of:
    • bank transfers
    • gift cards
    • cryptocurrency 

Control and coercion

  • Encouragement to keep the relationship secret
  • Isolation from family, friends, or professionals
  • Pressure to act urgently or emotionally

Other indicators

  • The individual becomes defensive or distressed when concerns are raised
  • Continued sending of money despite evident risks
  • Significant financial loss or sudden financial hardship

Making Safeguarding Personal (MSP)

Romance fraud cases often require skilled engagement, as individuals may:

  • Believe the relationship is genuine
  • Experience strong emotional attachment
  • Feel shame or fear about disclosure

Practitioners should:

  • Listen to and respect the person’s views and wishes
  • Use professional curiosity and gentle challenge
  • Avoid judgement or confrontation
  • Work to build trust and safety over time

What to Do if You Have a Concern

Immediate risk

  • If there is an immediate risk of harm, contact emergency services (999)

Safeguarding response (Warrington)

If an adult may be experiencing abuse or exploitation:

  • Adult Social Care: 01925 443322
  • Out of Hours: 01925 444400

Fraud reporting

  • Advise the individual to:
    • Contact their bank immediately
    • Report to Action Fraud (national fraud reporting service)

Practitioner responsibilities

  • Record concerns clearly
  • Share information proportionately
  • Consider whether a Care Act safeguarding enquiry is required

Prevention Advice (Key Messages)

Be aware:

  • People may not be who they say they are online
  • Criminals use emotional manipulation and urgency

Stay safe:

  • Avoid sharing personal or financial information
  • Be cautious about requests for money or secrecy
  • Keep communication on original platforms where possible

Take action:

  • STOP – take time before acting
  • THINK – could this be a scam?
  • FRAUD – contact your bank and report concerns

Multi‑Agency Working

Effective responses to romance fraud may involve:

  • Adult Social Care
  • Police and Action Fraud
  • Financial institutions
  • Voluntary and community organisations

Romance fraud should be considered alongside:

  • Domestic abuse (where coercion/control is present)
  • Self‑neglect
  • Wider safeguarding concerns

You can find a guide around Romance Fraud here

Key Messages!

ALWAYS:

  • Be wary of revealing personal information about yourself online

  • Remain on the dating site’s messaging platform if contact was via a dating site

  • Remember that anyone can pretend to be anyone they want to be online

  • Be wary if you are encouraged to keep things from your family and friends

  • Be wary of anyone asking lots of questions about you but not revealing much about themselves.

STOP: Taking a moment to stop and think before parting with your money or information could keep you safe.

THINK: Could it be fake? It’s ok to reject, refuse or ignore any requests. Only criminals will try to rush or panic you.

FRAUD: Contact your bank immediately if you think you’ve become the victim of a fraud and report it to Action Fraud.

 

NEVER:

No matter how long you’ve been speaking to someone online and how much you trust them and even if you’ve met in person:

  • Never send them any money

  • Never allow them access to your bank account

  • Never transfer money on their behalf

  • Never take a loan out for them

  • Never provide copies of your personal documents such as passports or driving licenses

  • Never invest your own money on their behalf or on their advice

  • Never purchase and send the codes on gift cards from Amazon or iTunes

  • Never agree to receive or send any parcels on their behalf (such as mobile phones or laptops)

Catfishing:

Catfishing is a deceptive activity where someone creates a fake identity online—often using someone else's photos and personal details—to trick others, typically for emotional manipulation, financial gain, or other personal motives. It’s most commonly associated with online relationships, where the person being deceived believes they are interacting with a real individual, but in reality, they’re communicating with someone pretending to be someone else.

You can find more information about Catfishing here